Thursday, June 18, 2020
It happened. The title of this post suggests something like "heads up". Work overflow and parental routine could act as a silent killer. Whatever your main activity for living is, our body sends us signals that things are not ok. How often do you feel more tired as usual? Therefore, that tiredness affects our mood, yet we don't feel like intercoursing with anyone else. It seriously damage our social relationships.
We are something like the perfect creation. We store in our long term memory all things we watch, we listen, we read, we make. We are able to identify if something can go wrong when we combine our sensors and everything stored in our memory. We are problems solvers. Every challenge we are set to do, even though its difficulty level, we find the way to solve it. If we don't have the right tool, we create it anyway. If somebody doesn't believe us, we find the way to find the perfect words to change their minds. We are the perfect math processor. We are dexterous with numbers like anyone else, so we can figure out instantly if somebody is plausible just by a couple of calculations.
However, heads up. I've learned when to say stop. We are like machines, yet we are not machines. Sometimes letting go it's healthier than keep on holding. We are naturally attached either to people or things, but certainly we need to constantly evaluate if that bonding is either benefitting or harming us. It's time to turn on the headlights, visualize our surroundings and be aware of everything. We don't have to wait until last minute.
Monday, May 25, 2020
Back in the days, I didn't realize that my life would flip over with the blink of an eye. I was experiencing several changes on my job, and a series of financial decisions had been already made. I remember exactly the time when my wife told me that big surprise: You will become a dad. I cannot describe how I felt, but I remember a certain type of shivering of happiness and uncertainty that those words drew into my body. Nobody is prepared for that. I was 28, yet I didn't even feel that I was able to carry a newborn on my arms. I remember when I carried my little nephew, then he instantly cried because he felt unsafe on my arms. That memory came to my mind when I visualized on how it will be like to carry my first baby.
As the days went by, a day like today but eight years ago, my daughter was born. I've never felt that kind of happiness to see that tiny being coming out with that loud crying that suggested that she was healthy and safe. Though all that happiness and joy that my daughter brought to all our family and friends circle, the best was yet to come when we checked out from the hospital, and we were about to head to our home. The sleepless nights were about to start. Those are things that every new parents experience at first, but I remember that even one bloating on her tummy was capable of make our nights that dreadful. Fortunately, we passed over it.
With all the things as a baby and as a toddler lived on, including sicknesses, tantrums, funny occurrences, mischiefs, and so on; my daughter taught me so many valuable life lessons that I would never caught if I weren't be a dad. It's not the same thing observing parenthood than living on it. The things that I never imagined to do before that happened, I undoubtedly did and with bonuses. I developed strength, willpower, maturity and other manners which helped me to raise her. Now I am father of two beautiful daughters, so they are so especial for me, but the things you learned with the first one when practicing newbie parenthood, those things are unforgettable though.
On the picture shown, my daughter Gabriela when she was 1 year and 4 months old. Now she is much bigger, but the same childish face.
Thanks for reading.
Sunday, May 10, 2020
A few months ago, I was planning how my 2020 will be like, yet I tried to figure out how to get a serious commitment with myself on some unaccomplished goals. I reckon nobody was plotting ahead how our life would change in a glipmse, and it seems those changes will be part of our daily living at least for a couple of years. On my 37 years of living, I've never seen something similar which affects the entire globe that flat. It is the first time I look that people are being subjected to such self awareness. Sometimes it's hard for me to see even children wearing a mask, yet I think it's harder for them to be banned from socializing with other kids when we know this is part of their natural behavior.
On the other hand, this Covid19 novel will lead us to practice a set of new habits that would benefit our way of living. I am sure that people will take cleanliness more seriously than ever before. When have you been instructed on the way you washed your hands? When did you ever clean and sanitized your groceries? During this time, I bet there were so many people that received their first online class or work session. I guess this way of conferencing will remain forever. Whoa.
The saddest part for me is the economic outbreak ahead. So many businesses have not received even a penny during the lockdowns. Things would never be the same for lots of them. I personally had the fortune to be on a technical area which was classified as "essencial", so I haven't stopped working. But so many people had been either furloughed or canceled from their jobs. Nobody has the ability to predict how the economic recovery will be, but I think that as humans we have the great willing to overtake every kind of crises, even though how dreadful the panorama was. On this moments, people show the best of them. Human kindness brings hope to our world.
I hope this too shall pass. It's going to be a new beginning for many people, yet the most important thing is to be alive to relate the havoc of everything what it was.
Monday, January 27, 2020
I've heard from several people who say that if a person has a plan of life, then that person should succeed on his or her goals. Taking little fragments of my personal experience, I've tried to plan and schedule certain sort of goals such as a desired weight, a determined savings amount, or to do a big purchase like a house, and so on. Down the road, too many unexpected things blow my plans away, so I have to act like triggering a fire extinguisher to solve those struggles which punch me very hard, yet I have to start over again. It really hurts though.
I can guess that those people who had completed several leadership and management courses and certificates, they are the same person who they were before taking that knowledge inlet because life hits really hard sometimes, so it turns down people back to reality right away. I believe that everybody can succed but not everybody is prepared for that. Mentally, we bar ourselves from achieving the big things instead of trying to get them. It's very common to hear words like "I can't do it", "it's so difficult for me". When words like that come out from our mouths, fear is set in our minds, so the result is either not even trying to do the things or getting done a messy thing. It happens to me very often, yet sometimes I needed a push from somebody else to put my fears away.
When it comes to planning, I think that even though when unexpected things ruin your plans, it's very important not losing the course of your plan. It's like sailing, when tide deviates your course, it's very important to have a good domain at maneuvering the rudder and propeling accurately. Nothing comes easy, but it requires practice, so practice comes from trying, not from staying put.
I conclude that if my plans got ruined by unexpected things, the best thing I can do it's to be thankful and mindful, so I can start over again with my mind set to my goal.
Sunday, November 3, 2019
Many different mentors throughout my life had adviced me upon a "never stop learning". Perhaps it sounds like nuanced words, but we, racional beings, are always searching something new to learn, no matter how. Personally, I consider that I had learn sufficiently something when I've experienced it theoretically and practically. Both at once, not separately. It's not the same feeling when I narrate something that I had experienced rather than something I had not. Sometimes I got frustrated when I had to train people about why my product portfolio was reliable and easy to install when I only had received theoretical training about that. It's very easy to see people silently judging you just with their sight and facial expressions. Little by little I decided to involve into field, so I could experience how to install the products, and sometimes with mistakes on it, but that made me perform my trainings. Now the fishtank was full of life, and the next trainings I could observe how people were awake and more convinced with me, their questions were answered and for my satisfaction, I noticed my approval on their faces. Nailed it.
Effective learning hurts. It's like the struck of the hammer on your finger when you are learning how to nail. It's like when the professional skater is trying to make his first backflip, yet he falls so many times trying to acomplish. Everybody have different learning experiences, so each person has a different story to tell with different perspective. Some people have sequels due to how they gained their experience. Hence, when the gained experience it's very sharp so they can relate with that solid confidence, and you can say "I believe you" or "blindly I can trust this person that job".
I failed so many times when it comes to make imprtant decisions in my life, some of them led me to lose a lot of money, some of them led me to achieve important things, but their common factors are the lessons learned, whether good or bad, but learned. The size of the risk of the decision it's the same size of the amount of what it's going to be earned or lost by that risk. Anyone can be a great memory retainer by reading a big amount of books, I think it's not so bad whatsoever, so we can enrich ourselves with any type of content in our encephalic system and it contributes to activate our creative side which it's very important for the upcoming innnovations, but none of this will be worth if it's not put into practice. This is how some persons are distinguished from others. This is the reason why the pundit is beaten by the doer.
Finally, I consider that to learn effectively the combination of sharpening the pencil plus sharpening the tool should be done. Cheers.
Sunday, August 25, 2019
When I find solely moments with my mind clear of any distracting garbage, I have small talks with my inner self, and sometimes it comes to my mind the question "When will I finally find myself?". Yet at this age would be sort of naive because everyone may think that an adult person with an apparent realized life wouldn't be worried for some childish struggles, but I clearly see that too many people have ocean size voids which have not been filled whatsoever. Myself is included.
Year by year, I have been redefining what success means to me, as long as I feel less worried about the things that can derail my happiness. On my twenties, I thought that finalizing a university major, then getting a job lined up with that major, it could be a successful lifestyle. I lived that experience, and I don't regret about that, but I dind't receive a real life advice about what an adult life really is about.
Money is the most visible measurable variable of success, and it's all about on how people set judgements about others. We live on a system where money flows so that it's delivered for whom has more value according to this system. Not necessarily the ones who do more work are the ones who earn more. It seems unfair, but the economic system, which all individuals are stranded on, delivers on a very unproportional rate according to the market value of the individual. One friend of mine suddenly chatted me if I didn't feel sort of dissapointment of this working, paying bills and rent lifecycle. I felt startled about the question, but if we assess very well, that statement sadly contains much true on it. If some part of this lifecycle steals your peace, clearly I believe that something is not going as we expect.
This system won't change for the upcoming years, the governments will behave the same way, the economic system will be always broken and the money will always be delivered on this unfairly way. The best thing we can do is replenish ourselves with positive traits in order to help each others. So then, when I try to anwer the question I started in this post, I see crystal clear that the answer will shortly come, but when it finally do, I should at least had filled the most of the voids that had been stealing my happiness, peace and joy. But when will that happen? I remember that life has not to be a money making routine, I have a family, two little daughters, a health to worry about, too many experiences to enjoy, too many places to know, and so on.
So, I am trying to live and enjoy my present even though it's not so grateful as I expected, but I don't have to lose my direction on what I'm want to achieve.
Monday, July 15, 2019
When I look back to my 20's (I'm 36, so that's a long time gap), I miss the times that I spent weekends without having any nap time with no regrets, and I claimed my older relatives who evidently did. Now, when I spend my free weekends, so a nap break it's neccessary for recovering a little bit this weary being. There's a lot of thing that people of my age talk about, such as few sleeping hours, knee pain, kids, work stress, and so on. Regarding all this heads up, I frankly think that we have to add new learning to our brain, even if we have to sacrifice our comfort zone. No reward will fall from the sky without any work made.
Recently, I feel pretty discouraged when I spent more than 10 years working constantly for a company which offered me personal and economic growing, so I din't take importance to academically growing, which means, to get an additional major or something else. Sometimes our body and soul need a reward, yet I learned that anybody can give you that but you.
When I studied from two semesters in a row my english courses on my college, a learning hunger awaken inside me which convinced me that never it's to late to achieve your learning goals and skills. Nowadays, with 2 daughters, a home to attend, exhausive work journey, so studying can mean a burden for anyone else, but for me is an encouraging challenge.
One important thing to add fresh learning it's to feel yourself confident and let your fears step away from you. Regardless your age and exhaustive daily journey, the first thing that has to be driven it's to have small talks with yourself and say "I can do it". I can find all means possible to achieve that without excuses. On this interconnected world we live on, any information can be found, any book can be gotten, too many free learning resources are grab and go, and so many follow up tools are on our reach. Too unexcusable.
Finally, your life experience had told you that many things are not achievable for you, but let's do a swift and tell your past life that you are a story that hasn't still ended.