Monday, January 27, 2020

When my plans got ruined

I've heard from several people who say that if a person has a plan of life, then that person should succeed on his or her goals. Taking little fragments of my personal experience, I've tried to plan and schedule certain sort of goals such as a desired weight, a determined savings amount, or to do a big purchase like a house, and so on. Down the road, too many unexpected things blow my plans away, so I have to act like triggering a fire extinguisher to solve those struggles which punch me very hard, yet I have to start over again. It really hurts though.

I can guess that those people who had completed several leadership and management courses and certificates, they are the same person who they were before taking that knowledge inlet because life hits really hard sometimes, so it turns down people back to reality right away. I believe that everybody can succed but not everybody is prepared for that. Mentally, we bar ourselves from achieving the big things instead of trying to get them. It's very common to hear words like "I can't do it", "it's so difficult for me". When words like that come out from our mouths, fear is set in our minds, so the result is either not even trying to do the things or getting done a messy thing. It happens to me very often, yet sometimes I needed a push from somebody else to put my fears away.

When it comes to planning, I think that even though when unexpected things ruin your plans, it's very important not losing the course of your plan. It's like sailing, when tide deviates your course, it's very important to have a good domain at maneuvering the rudder and propeling accurately. Nothing comes easy, but it requires practice, so practice comes from trying, not from staying put.

I conclude that if my plans got ruined by unexpected things, the best thing I can do it's to be thankful and mindful, so I can start over again with my mind set to my goal.


Sunday, November 3, 2019

How to learn effectively

Many different mentors throughout my life had adviced me upon a "never stop learning". Perhaps it sounds like nuanced words, but we, racional beings, are always searching something new to learn, no matter how. Personally, I consider that I had learn sufficiently something when I've experienced it theoretically and practically. Both at once, not separately. It's not the same feeling when I narrate something that I had experienced rather than something I had not. Sometimes I got frustrated when I had to train people about why my product portfolio was reliable and easy to install when I only had received theoretical training about that. It's very easy to see people silently judging you just with their sight and facial expressions. Little by little I decided to involve into field, so I could experience how to install the products, and sometimes with mistakes on it, but that made me perform my trainings. Now the fishtank was full of life, and the next trainings I could observe how people were awake and more convinced with me, their questions were answered and for my satisfaction, I noticed my approval on their faces. Nailed it.

Effective learning hurts. It's like the struck of the hammer on your finger when you are learning how to nail. It's like when the professional skater is trying to make his first backflip, yet he falls so many times trying to acomplish. Everybody have different learning experiences, so each person has a different story to tell with different perspective. Some people have sequels due to how they gained their experience. Hence, when the gained experience it's very sharp so they can relate with that solid confidence, and you can say "I believe you" or "blindly I can trust this person that job".

I failed so many times when it comes to make imprtant decisions in my life, some of them led me to lose a lot of money, some of them led me to achieve important things, but their common factors are the lessons learned, whether good or bad, but learned. The size of the risk of the decision it's the same size of the amount of what it's going to be earned or lost by that risk. Anyone can be a great memory retainer by reading a big amount of books, I think it's not so bad whatsoever, so we can enrich ourselves with any type of content in our encephalic system and it contributes to activate our creative side which it's very important for the upcoming innnovations, but none of this will be worth if it's not put into practice. This is how some persons are distinguished from others. This is the reason why the pundit is beaten by the doer.

Finally, I consider that to learn effectively the combination of sharpening the pencil plus sharpening the tool should be done. Cheers.

Sunday, August 25, 2019

When will I finally find myself?

When I find solely moments with my mind clear of any distracting garbage, I have small talks with my inner self, and sometimes it comes to my mind the question "When will I finally find myself?". Yet at this age would be sort of naive because everyone may think that an adult person with an apparent realized life wouldn't be worried for some childish struggles, but I clearly see that too many people have ocean size voids which have not been filled whatsoever. Myself is included.

Year by year, I have been redefining what success means to me, as long as I feel less worried about the things that can derail my happiness. On my twenties, I thought that finalizing a university major, then getting a job lined up with that major, it could be a successful lifestyle. I lived that experience, and I don't regret about that, but I dind't receive a real life advice about what an adult life really is about.

Money is the most visible measurable variable of success, and it's all about on how people set judgements about others. We live on a system where money flows so that it's delivered for whom has more value according to this system. Not necessarily the ones who do more work are the ones who earn more. It seems unfair, but the economic system, which all individuals are stranded on, delivers on a very unproportional rate according to the market value of the individual. One friend of mine suddenly chatted me if I didn't feel sort of dissapointment of this working, paying bills and rent lifecycle. I felt startled about the question, but if we assess very well, that statement sadly contains much true on it. If some part of this lifecycle steals your peace, clearly I believe that something is not going as we expect.

This system won't change for the upcoming years, the governments will behave the same way, the economic system will be always broken and the money will always be delivered on this unfairly way. The best thing we can do is replenish ourselves with positive traits in order to help each others. So then, when I try to anwer the question I started in this post, I see crystal clear that the answer will shortly come, but when it finally do, I should at least had filled the most of the voids that had been stealing my happiness, peace and joy. But when will that happen? I remember that life has not to be a money making routine, I have a family, two little daughters, a health to worry about, too many experiences to enjoy, too many places to know, and so on.

So, I am trying to live and enjoy my present even though it's not so grateful as I expected, but I don't have to lose my direction on what I'm want to achieve.

Thank you.

Monday, July 15, 2019

How to pour fresh learning to your brain

When I look back to my 20's (I'm 36, so that's a long time gap), I miss the times that I spent weekends without having any nap time with no regrets, and I claimed my older relatives who evidently did. Now, when I spend my free weekends, so a nap break it's neccessary for recovering a little bit this weary being. There's a lot of thing that people of my age talk about, such as few sleeping hours, knee pain, kids, work stress, and so on. Regarding all this heads up, I frankly think that we have to add new learning to our brain, even if we have to sacrifice our comfort zone. No reward will fall from the sky without any work made.

Recently, I feel pretty discouraged when I spent more than 10 years working constantly for a company which offered me personal and economic growing, so I din't take importance to academically growing, which means, to get an additional major or something else. Sometimes our body and soul need a reward, yet I learned that anybody can give you that but you.

When I studied from two semesters in a row my english courses on my college, a learning hunger awaken inside me which convinced me that never it's to late to achieve your learning goals and skills. Nowadays, with 2 daughters, a home to attend, exhausive work journey, so studying can mean a burden for anyone else, but for me is an encouraging challenge.

One important thing to add fresh learning it's to feel yourself confident and let your fears step away from you. Regardless your age and exhaustive daily journey, the first thing that has to be driven it's to have small talks with yourself and say "I can do it". I can find all means possible to achieve that without excuses. On this interconnected world we live on, any information can be found, any book can be gotten, too many free learning resources are grab and go, and so many follow up tools are on our reach. Too unexcusable.

Finally, your life experience had told you that many things are not achievable for you, but let's do a swift and tell your past life that you are a story that hasn't still ended.

Thank you.

Wednesday, May 1, 2019

When looking back is not an option

Few days ago, I was reminiscing on several moments that I enjoyed the best. As a teenager on 1998 or 1999, I don't remember feeling worried about what it would happen tomorrow even though my parents were living a serious financial struggle. I never thought either leaving my parents house or having my own family so far, yet I whined too many times about not having my own rules. However, one of the best memoirs I have is having my friends available everyday at a certain hour. We didn't have cellphones to text or call between us for gathering, if one of us whistled then we knew that was the going out signal.

Nowadays, life is pretty much different than twenty years ago. We are living a time where people don't feel safe, yet we cannot confidence with any person because life stress had reached so far, so people is seriously affected by what others do instead on striving for themselves. In addition, there are so many people broken who they had grown on perverted environments which are the culprits of the disoriented world where we are living now.

On this technology age, social media is meaning for many people something like an exhaust valve where any individual can express their feeling deliberately, and they receive an instant feedback from whoever it is even if they had never exchanged any spoken word between them. Things like that makes the living environment even worse because if someone became an online sharing person, then a reaction, whether is good or bad, has been created, and it will follow you until it get suppressed by itself as a matter of time.

To add a few things up, living cost is soaring, population is exponentially growing, countries governments are corruptely broken, drinking water is scant, and so on. Sometimes I feel I want to travel back on time, but when I see that time is the only variable you cannot retrieve, I have a unique option and is "don't look back and carry on". I have a family to strive for, so when I feel like I want to give up, I remember my daughters whose innocence and plenitude of energy makes me see life with different eyes. Many people say I am still very young, but sometimes I feel that I'd lived enough haha, but I'm longing for witness things that I'm still expecting and I haven't accomplished.

So, if you feel like life is treating you as an accordion, it's better to play it loud.


Monday, December 10, 2018

Some awkward answers to random questions

Sometimes on my free and "no things to do" time, my inner self starts to asks weird questions which certainly have a logic answer, and I'm sure on an epoch of my early life I have seen the answer, but for many of them I cannot remember. When my six years old daughter starts to ask such kind of translucent questions such as "Did Santa Claus die too many years ago?", and I cannot find a convincent answer, I feel dull, and I remind myself that I should read more in order to have an answer for every questions that even a kid can ask you.

Strolling on the internet I did some questions.

Can a star die?

A/ Most stars take millions of years to die. When a star like the Sun has burned all of its hydrogen fuel, it expands to become a red giant. This may be millions of kilometres across - big enough to swallow the planets Mercury and Venus.

Reasoning, if the sun dies then we can be swallowed by that energy, but only Mercury and Venus will. There's nothing to be worry about that.

Do tea bags really reduce eye wrinkles?

Using tea bags on your eyes is a popular home remedy. Tea bags may help to improve the appearance of your eyes by reducing dark circles, puffiness, and redness. They may also help to treat irritation, styes, and pink eye. Tea bags are an affordable, natural option that you can easily try at home.

Reasoning, I feel doubtful about that because when you accumulated your body with sleepless hours that you won't recover, how a pair of remaining tea bags can help to counterfeit body nature?

Can dogs reincarnate into humans?

some people will continue to be human, and some will become animals. ... After they have been reincarnated as an animal, when they die they return to the spiritual world, and, as before, based on their behavior before they die the spiritual world will decide whether or not they are reincarnated as a person.

Reasoning, I believe that every person and every animal has a purpuse on this world, yet I certainly believe on what you harvest is what you've planted, so what if the dog after living surrounded by humans can be a better person in other life?. What I'm sure is the animals who are always watching us are cats.

Can a sword be swallowed?

Most sword swallowers do not actually 'swallow' the sword, but instead relax the throat enough to allow the blade to slide down the esophagus, although some sword swallowers do intentionally cause the blade to move down their throats by using their throat muscles in the peristalysis act of swallowing.

Reasoning, if several people drink and spit back gasoline turning it into flame, the sword swallowing has an upper difficulty level, but both can cause serious harm to the stomach if they go wrong. Please don't try this at home.

Seek and you'll find.


Saturday, December 8, 2018

Longing for more

When I thought that I've learned much enough to keep my life running straight to its end, I realize that I'm still living as if nothing has been learned still. This cranky life-module where I'm standing in right now is telling me that even though I had been accomplished many things quietly above average than other people (s.a. travel, children, university degree), I found myself on an endless trap where many people is stucked by, and it's for the boldest and clever ones the privilege to find an exit to this vicious cycle.

Life is giving me the toughest lessons on how to survive on a crises perhaps, yet I'm still remember how my father told me how he felt pretty much disappointed when stakes on his life strucked him really hard, and he told me "life paths are not as one really expects about them". I'm not good at translating songs, but that phrase comes from a song that says in spanish "los caminos de la vida, no son como los pensaba". Sometimes, I feel nostalgic, and I just want to embrace my dad for that; I pretty sure that he'll understand me although without saying any word.

However, I'm longing for more. I'm longing for things I know that will land on my life premises without asking for them. What you manifest is before you, said an anonymous wiseman. And guess what? Everything is happening right now, yet it cannot be seen still.

See y'all.